Friday, June 26, 2009

Methods And Positions To Help You Get Pregnant

My husband and I have been trying for 6 months to have a baby. Still no luck but I have faith everyday. And I do more and more research everyday to see what we can do to help us have a baby. I have heard so many things about ways to help you get pregnant.

I have done a lot of research about getting pregnant, different methods, and also heard that the positions you use may help with pregnancy as well. Ive read to have sex 3 times a week, to use a fertility monitor or prediction kit, to have sex before ovulation and not after. You are also supposed to stay away from alcohol, cigarettes and drugs.

I don't drink or use drugs but I do smoke. I quit for 5 years and just recently started again. I a trying to quit again, hopefully I can cold turkey again.

Of course people all around the world suggest different methods to get pregnant.

I read as well that you should have an alkaline diet and that you can get this recipe for an alkaline douche that can help you conceive. If you go to, you can find a list of all the alkaline foods that may help you.
I have heard and read from a lot of people that the missionary position is the best way for you to get pregnant. As well as after sex you aren't supposed to get up for 15-20 minutes, even heard that it helps you if you put your feet up on the wall (with butt in the air)for 20 minutes.

Also the position that allows you and your spouse to climax together. All people are different. Then of course you hear that f the sperm leaks out right away or if you clean yourself right after sex, that reduces your chances of having a baby.

We are trying to have a boy, of course my husband wants a boy, since we already have a 5 year old and he has a 4 year old.

I read an article on Ezine Aricles written by Poppy R called Conceive a Boy Fast. That is a very informational article and I am going to take her advice for sure.

So now after doing all of this reading I am going to work a little bit harder and change some of the things that I do. Maybe in a few months (hopefully) I will be blogging about us having a baby.

Monday, June 22, 2009

I was on Birth control for 8 years and then quit taking it. How long before I can get pregnant?

As you may have read my husband and I are trying to have a baby. I wonder if me taking birth control for as long as I did ruined the chance of me having another baby.

So me being me I went to google to find out what the details are. This is what I foudn out and it saddened me to think I could be a woman that doesnt regain fertility.

The question I asked was, how long does it take to get the pill out of your system?

Demulen is a combination of a synthetic estrogen (ethinyl estadiol) plus a progestin (ethynodiol diacetate) that is used for hormonal contraception. It works primarily by suppressing ovulation. When these drugs are administered together, the amount of time it takes for the serum drug
level to be reduced by 1/2 (the half-life) is approximately
8 hours. In general, clearance of a drug is approximately five half-lives. However, even though a drug has technically been "cleared" from the body, it still may have lasting effects.

Unfortunately, most women think of their fertility in a way that is analogous to a light switch that is either "on" or "off." It is actually much more complicated than that. When a woman's fertility has been "interrupted" for any reason (e.g., pregnancy, or in this case by using hormonal contraception) then there is a time of "returning fertility." The amount of time that it takes for fertility to return varies widely from woman to woman and depends on each unique woman's endocrine reaction to having had her fertility interrupted. After using hormonal contraception, erratic hormonal patterns and ovulation disorders are common during this time, which may take between three and six months but can persist longer. It is believed that this leads to an inflated rate of miscarriage and even difficulties in getting pregnant. Sadly, fertility does not always completely return as a small percentage of women experience long-term fertility problems after stopping hormonal contraception. The research of Dr. Erik Odeblad, for example, suggests that for every one year that a woman takes birth control pills, the functioning of the cervix (which plays an important role in getting pregnant) ages by two years.

In summary, Demulen, as a member of the family of hormonal contraceptive agents can be expected to "clear" the body in a fairly short period of time. At the same time, however, it may have lasting effects for several months or
permanently affect a woman's ability to get pregnant after it is discontinued.

Stress Is a Big Factor In Pregnancy

I have read many articles and many books that say you shouldnt stress yourself about having a baby. Well what if your not just stressed about having a baby, what if you are stressed about money, life, bills, etc.? It doesnt matter what you are stressed about, it all effects you and your body.

If you were prone to stress before the love-marriage-baby-carriage days, it may have gotten worse now that you're worrying for three, four, or more. Many studies have linked excess stress to depression, heart disease, diabetes, and even cancer recurrence.

There are many ways that you can relax and relieve stress and here are some ways that I have found work great.

Find the Funny:

A recent Japanese study found that laughing can directly alleviate anxiety; people who watched comedies had lower levels of circulating stress chemicals afterward than those who viewed regular movies.

Re-Think Your Drink:

What you sip can affect your stress in both good and bad ways.

1. Take a step back.

2. Stroll down memory lane

3. Try tea. A steamy mug boasts health benefits even beyond its already antioxidant-packed contents: Drinking something hot literally makes you slow down.

4. Ditch your 3-a-day Diet Coke habit. When you're revved up on caffeine all day long, your heart rate and breathing increase, which can make you feel unnecessarily anxious.

5. Be a water guzzler. Drinking this hydrating fluid is all-around good for you, but here's one benefit you probably haven't considered: Getting up to pee often, guarantees regular mind-clearing breaks. What's more, when you're up and about, you're likelier to interact with coworkers -- and have social conversations that aren't all business. The stress payoff? Studies have linked having close office pals to better anxiety management.

Make Time to Move:

Exercise is a known stress-reducer: It releases endorphins, those feel-good brain chemicals, and lowers blood pressure, which can skyrocket under duress. But how to find time for it? Here, three ways we swear by:

6. Bring along baby. Strolling together is a totally underestimated relaxer. Physically, the act of walking is very rhythmic and repetitive. That alone has a soothing effect -- for you and your infant. Plus, it's a no-brainer way to sneak it in while the little guy naps or quietly soaks up the landscape.

7. Stock sneakers everywhere. If you stow a pair of comfy walking shoes in your office or car, it's much harder to make excuses not to walk. Even just 10 extra minutes a day can have an impact; consider parking at the farthest end of the lot or hopping off the bus or subway a stop earlier. That combination of fresh air, alone time, and light exercise can be an instant calmer.

8. Pay attention to your energy ebbs and flows. If you match high-energy activities to high-energy times of the day, you'll enjoy them a lot more. Some moms love hitting the gym right after work for an instant mood-boost before heading home; others need the pick-me-up first thing in the morning, for example. Figure out what feels best -- and go with it.

Satisfy Your Sweet Tooth

9. Splurge selectively. You don't want to make a habit of binging every time you're stressed, but a little dark chocolate can bring on the calm. It has the perfect combination of fat, sugar, and compounds that stimulate the brain to release endorphins. The sugar also kicks up production of the mood-boosting brain chemical serotonin, which can help lower the body's stress response.

Look on the Bright Side:

Being optimistic helps reduce the negative toll stress hormones take on your body.

10. Find three good things about your day. The principle here is that there's always something positive. Whether it's wrapping up a report two days early or getting a killer deal on sale-rack stilettos. This is also a great game to play with older kids -- and an early lesson in gratitude to boot.

11. Redefine your stressors. What if you were to describe your jam-packed week as 'full and vibrant' instead? Words have power, so be precise about how you use them.

Divvy Up Dinner:

12. Pre-chop your veggies. You certainly don't have 45 minutes to whip up dinner every night, and you're probably not going to spend all of Sunday preparing frozen meals to eat all week long. The solution: Take an hour on the weekend to cut up the produce you use most. Weeknight dinners become a snap: A half-hour stir-fry recipe takes just 10 minutes when the veggies are all ready to toss into the wok.

Stay-at-Home Survival Strategy:

Just because you're not on the clock doesn't mean you feel stress any less. Two smart ways to fend it off:

13. Make your own breaks. Being a full-time mom is the only job where time off isn't mandated by law. If you don't pencil in your breaks, no one will. Stick to a standing date three or four times a week, whether it's lunch with friends or a class at the gym. You need to have regular things to look forward to, and keep them just like you would a doctor's appointment. Feel guilty about taking so much "me time"? Think of it this way: "When mom's doing better, so is her whole family."

14. Read something stimulating. Even if it's just a few pages of a novel before bed, skim something to challenge yourself. This is especially important when you're reading to and playing with kids all day long. And reading before bed is a better way to conk out than tuning into TV (the light and noise stimulate your brain and keep you awake longer).

Picture This:

15. Start snapping. Next time you feel frazzled at home, grab the camera. Taking pictures is surprisingly relaxing. One, you have to slow down to do it. Two, it distances you from the current situation. When viewing your adorable baby or rambunctious preschooler through an outsider lens, it reminds you how lucky you are.

Inhale, Exhale:

How you breathe can have a big impact on stamping out stress. Try these moves:

16. See your stress dissipate. As you inhale, visualize the word 'calm' coming into your mouth and tense up your body -- make a fist, shrug your shoulders, curl your toes. When you exhale, imagine the word 'stress' leaving it -- and completely loosen everything up. You'll feel your whole self relax (physically and mentally) right away.

17. Time your breathing. If you're anxious and need to calm down, exhale for longer than you inhale. Breathe in for five seconds and out for seven, for example. This triggers a chemical change in your brain that makes your heart rate slow down. Likewise, if you're tired and need a boost, inhale for longer than you exhale.

Get Your Game On:

18. Play the old-fashioned way. Breaking out a board game or a puzzle is a great way to get your older kids to talk. Inevitably while you're taking turns you can slip in a 'tell me about your day. And you're more likely to forget about the 34 e-mails you need to respond to when you're engaged and bonding with your kids than when you're all zoned out to the TV.

Do Over Your Drive:

Commutes and errand-running don't have to be a major source of tension. Consider these super simple moves before getting behind the wheel again:

19. Change up your path slightly every day. If you've got the same old commute day after day, you stop enjoying -- or even noticing -- your surroundings. Try to pass by something natural, like a park or a lake, which helps stimulate your senses. Plus, many studies have shown that exposure to nature can help lower stress levels.

20. Be the early bird at after-school pickups. Avoid that panicky rush-rush-rush feeling by arriving at your kid's karate practice five minutes before it ends. Then use that break to relax and rejuvenate. Recline your seat, pop in a CD you love instead of the radio, and savor every second.

Create a Calm Corner:

Set up a zen zone at home and work, then turn to it when the going gets tough.

21. Deck your desk. It's probably lined with pictures of your kids, but why not add other things that bring you joy too, like a memento from a favorite getaway. Every time you look at that sea shell, for example, you'll be transported to those relaxing moments -- you can literally see yourself sitting the beach, you can smell that salty air.

22. Find one spot in the house that makes you totally happy. Even a corner of the bathtub will do. Keep a few beautiful candles perched on the tub. You may not have time for a relaxing bath every night, but just seeing them may help you feel better.

23. Use soothing smells. A recent Australian study found that emergency room nurses had significantly lower anxiety levels after receiving aromatherapy massages. While massage is not realistic in the middle of a crazy work day, you can let the power of scent keep you calm. Stash a bottle of lavender hand cream in your desk drawer and rub it on whenever you need instant relaxation.

Make Chores More Fun:

There's no way around housework, but these tips may help you dread the deed a little less.

24. Pump up the volume. Six loads of laundry become a lot more bearable when you're sorting and folding to Bon Jovi -- and taking breaks to dance, sing, and laugh. When mom's silly, it's remarkable what happens to her kids. You'll have a roomful of happy, gigglers in just 15 seconds -- it's truly transformative.

25. Treat yourself to some tulips. Studies have shown that fresh flowers can lower stress levels by triggering positive emotions in people who admire them. So make sure to pass by them (and catch a calming whiff) between rounds of vacuuming and dusting.

Get a New Take on Lists:

Maintaining a log of tasks may be a lifesaver, but this can actually fuel stress if you do it the wrong way. Keep this in mind before you pick up a pen:

26. Have two kinds. The first is a massive brain-dump that you update whenever you remember something new, whether it's writing a thank-you note or calling the landscaper. From that, draft a shorter daily or weekly list of what you realistically hope to accomplish in that timeframe. Then at the end of the day, you see all the cross-offs and feel productive, not overwhelmed by what you haven't done.

27. Use it to delegate. Don't just pen the list -- show it to your partner or older kids who can help you whittle it down. This lets everyone pitch in and prioritize, and ensures that your husband and kids don't need to read your mind.

What Goes Around:

28. Consider anti-stress karma. If you aid people in their time of need, maybe you'll get help when you're under the gun. When pregnant women ask you what motherhood is really like, be honest and share your tips. Offer to pick up groceries for a new mom. Watch someone's baby while she takes a nap. Other studies have found that being a good friend can lower blood pressure and help women manage their own stress more effectively.

I have given you 28 ways to help relieve your stress and I know that I will be putting more of them into effect in my life. Enjoy!!!

Saturday, June 20, 2009

Life of An At Home Mom

The daily life of an at home mom...It takes a lot, its a full-time job in its self. My husband has a good job and I stay at home with our 5 year old daughter, now that school is out. The daily duties of a housewife are challenging somedays, but I get them done. Getting our daughter up in the morning to help her continue her education throughout the summer so she is ready for first grade next year, the cleaning, the dishes, the laundry. Then making sure that she eats what she is supposed to everyday to stay healthy.Then there is me online trying to find ways to make money at home while my husband is busting his butt all day. Trying to find ways to make income come into the house so I feel like I am contributing to our household. Then there is finding activities for my daughter to do while I am online and keeping her busy so she doesnt bother me. Having a 5 year old, they are very needy, or well at least mine is. She wants attention all the time and she has ADHD so its hard for her.

Are Some People Meant to Only Have one Child

There are some days I wonder if I was only meant to have one kid. My mom had me when she was 28, and I was the only child. She was pregnant once before she had me, and never again after she had me. I have had a few miscarriages before and after I had my daughter. But never another successful pregnancy after my daughter. This leads me to wonder if it could be hereditary. Maybe I was only meant to have one child. My mom used to say she couldn't wait for me to have a girl, to show me the way I treated her. Does anyone have any insight for me?

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Why is it so hard?

My husband and I have been trying for a baby for about 5 months now. We have a 5 year old daughter already, and of course he wants a boy... What man wouldn't?
So I have been keeping track of my menstral cycles and also my ovulation and still nothing. I eat good somedays, but somedays I am so busy I may only eat twice a day.
So I guess I should be more disciplined in eating and taking care of myself...
Anyone have any other suggestions to what I can eat or drink to maintain healthy while being very active?

How to Increase your Chance of Getting Pregnant

For some women it is easy to get pregnant, and others struggle. Many women feel helpless if they do not conceive quickly, and they begin to think there may be a serious fertility problem. There are many things women can do to increase their fertility levels and therefore, improve their chances of having a baby.
First of all keep a positive attitude. Negative thoughts will often hinder your chances of conceiving. As stress level rise, fertility levels can fall. Try not to worry too much about getting pregnant quickly. Take time out of your busy schedule to unwind. Everyone has different methods of relaxing, so think about what you can do to achieve this.
For some its a candle lit bath and others may need an Aromatherapy massage to help them relax. Aromatherapy may also be used to regulate menstrual cycles. Certified aroma therapists can be found on the internet or in your local business directory.
Spending time with your partner and enjoying the activities that you do together can help as well. This can improve the emotional aspects of the relationship and relieve some stress.
Acupuncture is also known to have a positive effect on your fertility, when used with IVF.
Ovulation is of course very important in conceiving a baby. Ovulation usually occurs between the twelfth and eighteenth day of your cycle. During this time, you are at your most fertile and your chances of falling pregnant are maximized.
It is thought that ovulation is most likely to happen on day fourteen (this is based on a regular, twenty-eight day cycle.) A way of predicting your most likely day of ovulation is to subtract fourteen from the total length of your own menstrual cycle. For example, if your cycle is twenty-eight days, subtract fourteen to arrive at your optimum date of fertility, (in this is case, it would be day fourteen.) Nevertheless, women’s menstrual cycles do vary greatly; consequently, your day of ovulation may either be before or after day fourteen.
Ovulation predictor tests can also be bought from a pharmacy or drugstore. Having sexual intercourse when you are ovulating will obviously increase your chances of getting pregnant. Although, couples should try to have sex at least three times per week if they are trying for a baby. The human body is a miraculous thing and ovulation does not always occur when it should take place. Regular sex not only strengthens a relationship, it is a way of making sure that no opportunities are missed.
After you have had intercourse, try not to get up or move around for at least twenty minutes, this will help to keep your partner’s sperm inside your body, again, increasing the likelihood of falling pregnant.
You must also have good nutrition and a well balanced diet, while trying to conceive. Try to eat a diet rich in fruit and vegetables, lean protein and wholegrain, fiber-rich foods, such as brown bread, rice and pasta.

* Leafy, green vegetables, such as cabbage, kale, broccoli, lettuce and spinach, are high in folic acid, a vitamin which is incredibly important for both mother and child. Folic acid supports the development of a fetus and can prevent debilitating defects, including spina bifida. It is also essential for the reproductive and general health of a woman. Folic acid can also be found in bread and cereals and taken as a vitamin supplement.

* Lean meat or beans and pulses are very rich in protein and iron. These important nutrients help to keep iron levels high in the body. A blood count low in iron, can affect the general health of the ovaries, and may interfere with ovulation.

* healthy eggs and can be found in nuts and seeds, dairy products, yeast, wholegrain foods, lean meat and shellfish. * Dairy products are rich in calcium, which everyone needs to maintain healthy bones and teeth. If you are trying to get pregnant, make sure that you consume enough calcium, in order for your body to support a developing fetus.

If you have been trying for over a year and still no results, you may want to contact your doctor to talk about the possibilities for you and your partner. If your doctor thinks there is a genuine complication, they will arrange for you to see a fertility specialist as soon as possible.